decide things are gonna be ok.

i read that things that matter to us
are the things that bring us pain

i think that makes perfect sense,
since when something affects things that matter to us,
we become angry, worried, agitated, concerned

...and we'd do everything in our power to make it right

take me, for example. i am in the middle of
struggling to save enough money to move in my new place.
and judging by the way things are going,
i MIGHT be able to move in, say early 2013

that causes me a lot of pain

i angry about it to no end,
i am worried that it may take me too long,
i am agitated that i must earn / save more for it,
i am concerned about leaving my place unattended for years

but i learnt something the other week

i talked about the whole thing to my folks,
and my folks, being folks, offered to cover what i need.
i couldn't believe my ears, bless them!

it made me realize something.
if i worry excessively about it,
it causes pain to myself AND my folks!
so not only is it bad for my health,
my folks starts being concerned about me as well

so i think it's all a matter of changing your perspective

i have decided that this is not the end of the world.
i have decided that i am capable of getting what i need.
i have decided that this isn't worth worrying my folks.
i have decided that i can take my time.
i have decided that everything will be ok!

so now i'm fine with the whole thing.
cos you see, as much as the new place matters,
it's the state of happiness of my folks
that eclipses everything else for me

and that, i think, is what matters most to me